I’ve slept well these last few nights. Probably on account of allowing myself the spoils of excess – it is the festive period after all. That’s my excuse, and I am sticking to it. But I awoke at 3am and took a while to reflect on why I couldn’t slip back into slumberland. It dawned on me, perhaps in a peculiar way, it was a kind of hankering after, or concern for all my clients well-being. Less than a week apart, and my little brain became addled with a kind of distant rumination.
One of my younger clients, who of course remains anonymous, said recently of Christmas:
“F$£k that, I am expected to be happy just because you guys tell me to, while you get pissed and pretend to be happy for a day”….
It’s not verbatim, but you get the idea. This young lad is angry at his role models, his parental figures. We haven’t delved deeper into his resistance to unanimous joy during the festive period. But if we did, I would hazard a guess that an absent father and inconsistent mother have meant he has experienced a few less than happy Christmas’s.
.Aside from those who have lost loved ones, for which we all spare a thought at any time of the year – even if the more celebrated occasions can be harder.
Fortunately, this year, I have not had any more traumatic reasons recounted to me about why Christmas can be tainted with sadness, loss, or hard memories
But it made me reconsider sending out a conventional “Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year” kind of message to all my dear clients. When you begin to consider the above statement and the wider implications of what Christmas really means, you realise sending a gushing message full of “ding dong merrily on high” and “Tis’ the season o be jolly”, might actually be like rubbing salt into the wounds of those who don’t feel the seasonal joy.
I decided instead to share some tips on mindfulness and meditation as my little gift to one and all. So, do share this post on your social media or forward this email on to anyone who might benefit from a bit of chill in their lives:
1. My latest progressive muscle relaxation meditation or ‘induction’ stage of hypnosis.
· PMR with background music link here
· PMR without music can be found on my website: Next Chapter Therapies .
2. Listen to a guided meditation on an App every morning as soon as you wake up or every evening before you go to bed. They can be as short as ten minutes and we can all factor ten minutes into our daily lives. There are loads to choose from, just head to the App store on your smart phone or do a search online. I am currently using calm.
3. Take a daily walk and connect with nature. If you live in a city, find a local park or wildlife reserve. A breath of fresh air and practicing gratitude for the beauty this world has bestowed can be uplifting and healing.
4. Take up a new hobby or rediscover an old one.
5. Get creative, whether that’s art, music, writing, crafting, playing: anything that gets you outside of your overthinking mind.
6. Try to get a regular and consistent sleep routine.
7. Gratitude practice: Try Tamara Levitt from Calm’s: Gratitude Countdown from 10 to 1 marking anything you feel grateful for. Note, it doesn’t have to be the big significant things like family, health, or a loved one. Rather, it can be noticing little things such as the sunlight streaming through the window, the warmth of a cup of tea on your palms, or the refreshing feel of the morning shower.
I am going to leave it with seven little tips for now, as seven is my lucky number and while I am not a practicing Jew, seven represents luck and good fortune in Judaism. Faith is another reason Christmas can mean different things to all of us, but I feel that could be an entirely separate app. So, what better way to end this year’s seasonal message than wishing you all good luck and fortune in 2023. Try some of the above self-care tips and see what a difference it can make….
Until my New Year post, wishing you all love and kindness for the end of one year and the beginning of another.
Reuben
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- The objective is the two parts (the motivating part and the sabotaging part) in conflict reach a positive outcome through discussion and ultimately resolution with one another.
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